Let a fish be a fish

by Lisa J Smith on Wednesday, March 16, 2011 at 11:11am

this came to me last night while i was falling asleep. for our friends, family, our children, co workers, employees...for all of us!



if you want a fish to swim do not take him out of the water. you are setting him up to fail.



a fish is a fish and can not be anything but.



by taking him out of the water and setting him on the ground...he will suffocate...not because he does not want to breathe and succeed and do the best he can, but because that is not the way he was built to survive. he was meant to be in the water.



if you purposely take a fish out of the water and set it on the ground then don't blame the fish for not being able to be a fish. you are the one that took him from where he thrives to where he will die. that is no fault of the fish.



the next time you think you are doing someone a favor...stop and think if they are a fish and where they would best fit... if they are a fish leave them in the water so they can thrive there and be the biggest fish in the pond...unless you are afraid that they will become a bigger fish than you! :)



awww....sometimes i think the fish are smarter than we are. we always think that we are untouchable, nothing will ever happened to us and that karma only happens to other people. We try to make our children, family, friends co workers into something they are not and then wonder why it isn't working.



when we live in a place where we support and up lift those who are around us and create the BEST SCENARIO FOR THEM TO BE IN, we are creating a better place for ALL of us to live in. duhh....



too many people are working from fear and ego that they are not enough so they attack or project onto others....when we can lift each other up we will thrive, breathe and create!



i sometimes think that people are the ones getting all tied up in the lines...and the fish are the smart ones...leave them alone and let them be fish!

what i don't have lead me to what i do have

what i don't have lead me to what i do have
by Lisa J Smith on Monday, March 14, 2011 at 9:23pm

i have no mission statement, i have no easy way to tell you who i am or what i do, i have no people who work for me, i have no assistant, i have no professional videos to show case my work, i have no guru, i have no book, i have no TV show, i have no show prep sheet everyday to tell me what to say, i have no web designer, social media staffing, i have no sales team, i have no marketers, i have no team of people making me beautiful, i have no production team, i have no staff meetings, i have no full time producer, i have no PR person, i have no savings account, retirement fund or stash of cash for a rainy day!



you might ask," why would you talk about what you don't have, isn't that not being positive and not spiritual"?? ....and i say to you, "what i don't have is nothing to have"...



i have my heart.

i have my truth.

i have my authenticity.

i have the moment.

i have life.

i have breath.

i have real stories.

i have YOU.

i have my heart to lead me where i, we, need to go.

i have a voice.

i have my passion.

i have my history.

i have my stories.

i have my experiences.

i have my class.

i have humility.

i have an understanding

i have all that i have ever been.

i have faith, belief and trust to meet those who i need to meet when i need to meet them.

i have more of my 'peeps' guiding me than i know what to do with most of the time.

i have love....and i have me....and as long as i have ME....i have all i need!



the rest of what i 'don't' YET have is easy...that will come...the hard work was finding what was lost and now has been found.

Top 72 things i learned this weekend..what did you learn?

1. no matter how hard i try, sometimes my trying is not the answer, it is the problem
2. anything is possible even the impossible...i get it but still not sure i GET it yet
3. that a moms love is the ultimate love and something, that unless you are mom, you will never understand
4. i think you can die of a broken heart
5. not everyone has all the answers
6. that even gnomes dont like each other bc they are different..makes me sad
7. that even our 'guides, angels and magical peeps' sometimes just dont know
8. the question is more important than the answer
9. there are no answers
10. there is no fixing anything..even though they do feel broken at times
11. it is up to me to live even if i make that up as i go along
12. i DO have choices..i sometimes just dont like them or want to make them
13. separation from self, love, faith and my peeps are the root of all evils for me
14. that sometimes love is enough....
15. how much do i really want something??? ...if i want it bad enough...ill do anything to fight for it...again how much do i want it???? full circle
16. there is nature then there is nurture...it is a fine line
17. money is meaningless and really does not fix anything. the issues are still there with the money or not in the bank
18. that my life is determined by the choices that i make
19. those that i love the most will never be the people i want them to be. i suppose they need to be the people that they ARE to have their own experiences. next time i am making better choices
20. i really am the same as everyone else. i get tired and i am not a machine. my job does not define me. if someone does not "like" me bc i did not get immediately back with them...that is not my problem and i wish them well. have a nice day!
21. maybe what i thought i once loved really was never love at all. not sure what is was...and maybe it just does not matter anymore
22. autism and differences suck and at the same time is the greatest gift..what a mind and heart screw
23. that truly if i do not stay on the moment and just take things one day at a time i will lose my mind
24. that when i love something you have to let it go...even if it will never come back
25. that no matter how hard you speak your truth sometimes another person will just never understand
26. that are dreams really are trying to tell us something...maybe we are not supposed to know what they mean
27. that fate and destiny are 2 different things
28. nothing is what i think it is
29. sometimes i just have to let go and let god
30. that walking in faith IS scary but really is my only hope to freedom
31. that this is a much slower dimension than i would like
32. i really need a change but at the same time dont really care anymore....and that is just ok with me
33. that i will be ok, AGAIN
34. that some people are just rude, angry and hate life and i am sorry that they feel the way they do
35. that there are a lot of shitty people in the world who do shitty things...sometimes just to be shitty
36. there are even more good people standing by to hold up the weaker ones
37. my heart really is broken, again. but yet for some reason there is more strength in my broken heart than there was before it broke
38. my choices are mine
39. my heart will heal again
40. that sometimes as much as i give it will never be enough
41. i miss my garden so much it makes my heart sad
42. that i am a spiritual warrior...for no other reason that i already made some really tough choices and have come out better than i was the day before
43. i really am good at my job and i KNOW someday the struggle will pay off. at least i love my job and i LOVE LOVE my listeners..as much as they say i help them...they help me too....even when they dont know they are. they hold me up too when i can not stand...i wish they knew that...maybe on some level they do
44. that listening to my heart and trusting my gut is mind boggling at times
45. that there is always a way around something even if i dont know how to get around...cosmic joke
46. we ALWAYS are were we need to be
47. the people that i once admired the most are sometimes that ones who disappoint me the most
48. not all people are who they say they are
49. i still really hate liars. just tell the truth and i can handle that. i can not handle it if someone lies.
50. that i really have come so far...and i really am just so proud of myself...bc of the choices that i have made. most people dont understand them...and that is ok. i now know
51. i really am so over the snow and cold and really do NEED the sun and warmth...it is part of my soul
52. i am over most people who pretend to be something they are not
53. i really dont have to tolerate bad behavior
54. that i do know what i know...even when people try to talk me out of knowing what i know
55. it can rain and snow and be sunny all at the same time
56. i really do love winne the pooh
57. that religion makes me sick...no wait...it isi what people so with religion that makes me sick...not the act of worship itself...live and let live....i really dont care what you belive just leave me and others alone with what we believe
58. i know i found my voice bc of #56 and #20
59. that friends are very very rare and very few people understand that. it is a word that is thrown around with no real understanding of what qualifies one as a friend
60. my saboteur is so wanting to kick my ass right now
61. i really dont want to be fat anymore but dont want to do anything AGAIN bc i just dont have the energy to kick my own ass right now...so it shall be
62. that crying so hard while i was driving...so much that i could not breath and had to pull over and get out of my running car to walk the street, and having a stranger pull over to ask me if i was ok....may have been just what i needed to let go
63. that the same person will kick my ass over and over and over again as long as i allow that person to do it, if i dont want to get in the ring then i wont show up to the arena
64. that i put MYSELF in situations and nothing is happening to me
65. i am so tired of the past
66. that other peoples "lack of respect" is a reflection of them...and just because they throw up on me, it really is sad bc it is about their own lack of respect for themselves
67. i never want to be a martyr, it is so ugly
68. that is really am a happy person and i really like the way that i am
69. i have a lot to do and i will show up and do it...not for you but for me
70. i did not make any mistakes...just next time will make better choices
71. The Adjustment Bureau loosened old seeds...we all have old seeds...LOVED LOVED LOVED that movie and i am so GRATEFUL i saw it.
72. that no one gets it all...my experiences and sharing makes me who i am...take it or leave it!



is it monday yet???

lessons from a snowblower

Spirit used another great analogy today to teach another life lesson:



My dad was over the other day....he needed to use my heavy duty snow blower to make a path to get something in my driveway.



I told him that i was having problems with it the other day when i had to try to plow through some pretty big drifts. i told him the wheels kept spinning and i could not get it to move forward without it getting stuck in a pile. this is a heavy duty industrial snow plow so it really should have been a breeze! it was anything but.



after he was finished, took him 3 minutes by the way, he asked what speed i had it in ( speeds 1-6)? i told him 5.

i'm no fool. i hate the snow and cold. my goal is to to get out there and get 'er done and get back in the house. the faster the better.



he said "well there is your problem. i had it in 1 or 2 and it worked great. i plowed right through". as i stood there feeling stupid, lol, he explained that if i have the speed too fast, all i would do is spin the tires because it had no torque behind it to make it move...DUH!!! it needs to be in 1 -2 to get through the big stuff! makes sense to me...the slower the speed the more "ENERGY" it would have behind it. it would be able to grip and move at a steady yet slower pace...therefore allowing me to use less of my energy and more of the snow blowers...THUS allowing me to finish FASTER AND EASIER!!!!



so tonight in a message to a client, spirit used that to explain to my client that she was going to fast and spinning her wheels. if she wanted to move through the tough stuff in her life, she has to slow down and allow it to move with more torque...more behind you to make it move through even the biggest of piles. the faster the speed the slower you go! the slower you go the more distance you will cover more efficiently and with less energy.



i thought about all the times in my life that i tried too hard to push through the big stuff. i wanted to go fast to get it done and move on...and ended up getting nowhere fast! awwww.....now i get it! :)



what a great analogy! i love the way spirit works....so many simple yet great messages to help us in any way they can!



if it will only snow one more time... ill try my snow blower out in speeds1 or 2.



now i know how to plow a nice little path through even the heaviest of storms! thanks dad!



happy snowplowing! :)

Cleanse and renewal...the souls journey thru the car wash!

Today a message came through from a listener’s dad on the other side and i wanted to share!

He compared his crossing over to being in a car wash...by the way i love how they explain things to us!

He said that when he crossed over it was like when you first enter the car wash...you align with the tracks and put your car in neutral. The car wash itself does all the work. It pulls you thru while you just sit back and enjoy the 'ride'.

While in the car wash it will spray you down, will soap you up (so it may be hard to see for a minute but that is ok be you know what is going on and you know you are on the 'right track').... and then waxes and rinses off the suds...when you are all clean you go thru the dryer...and then they dry off what ever is left on the car. You come out the other end shiny and sparkling just like new...I loved that!

I suppose it is about rebirth. I see it like this:

It, we, life is a cycle:
We have over and over and over entered the car wash. We have been stripped down, cleaned and polished up!!
Through driving our car (psychical selves) through storms, snow, slush and even sunshine on the dry days...our "cars' get dirty. When we are finished driving this car...our physical body...we pull into the car wash and let it do its thing...when we come out we are like new again and there are no traces of the dirt and grime of before.

This is a great explanation of what i tell my listeners and clients about 'death' there is no personality ...there is no anger...there is no ego...there is no hate...there is no un love...there is only beautiful shiny and sparkly cars...all of that is part of the journey. But when we leave our 'physical bodies' that goes with it. I have given thousands and thousands of messages and have NEVER been with on person on the other side who holds on to this. If they come thru that way it is a way for you to VALIDATE them...so you recognize their 'car'...but they do not carry that grime with them...

Guess what...when we pull out of the car wash...we get right back on our journey...we don’t think "oh no i cant drive bc i don’t want to get dirty again"...we get back on the rode drive and we know that next time we need a car wash and the time is right...we will find one and cleanse and renew.... and so the journey and cycle of life continues.

Don’t forget that this is the macro...this applies to the micro situations in your life as well.... while you are still in your dirty car! ;)

Relationships that hurt you, work, spouses, money, and health...we can always pull in the car wash for a quick cleanse and wash. Listen to your guidance and pull over...you will be taken care of and back on the rode in no time...ALLOW your self to let go of the wheel...know you are ALWAYS on the right track...and allow it to be.

It is like a circle within a circle within a circle...so amazing and so wonderful and so pure!

LIFE...now have fun and don’t forget to tip the peeps at the car wash!

Puzzle Pieces

I was giving messages a few weeks again at a private gallery reading and this message came through...i cant stop thinking about it:



We are all puzzle pieces. The universe is a vast puzzle beyond our comprehension. Each one of us has a unique piece that fits just perfect in the world.



WE spend so much time worrying about if we are ok, who we are, where do we fit in, wanting to please, wanting to change OUR piece, etc... once we can just accept that our piece was divinely created and is the perfect piece we will find peace.



WE are trying to figure out the universe's puzzle. our role in the universe is NOT to be the whole puzzle but to be the piece of the puzzle that completes it. by allowing our piece to fit in the puzzle we easily become a part of the greatest puzzle and then it creates the bigger picture.



actually, we are always a part of the universe as a piece is part of the puzzle...the bigger picture! our struggles are for nothing because our piece IS our piece. it is our lot in life so to speak. we need to accept that, own it, love it and be proud of the role we play in the universe just the way WE are. there are no pieces that do not fit. you just have to let the "puzzle maker" tweak and turn your piece to get it to fit. that "puzzle maker' is a higher part of you! it KNOWS what to do...let it do its job!



we are not the entire universe...by ourselves without the puzzle. we will always be a part of the universe but for it to be complete we need to be the piece....kind like when i say to you, "be the piece of peace".



some pieces are short, tall , skinny, plump, jewish , christian, muslim, balck white, mean, friendly, rich, poor, differences in learning etc...you get the picture!



Unique, one of a kind, cut to fit, designed to complete. When we stop making everything so hard all the time, when we stop trying to be everything to everyone...we can just be who we are. we will see that our piece is perfect for the puzzle and it was created to be divine.



be your piece of peace ~

tem·po·rar·y~ what this 2010 thanksgiving taught me

tem·po·rar·y

 /ˈtɛmpəˌrɛri/ Show Spelled [tem-puh-rer-ee]

lasting, existing, serving, or effective for a time only; not permanent:

~the one thing that i am learning, not always the easy way, is that nothing stays the same. much to how i wish with all my might it did...it does not!

we write books about it. we talk about it. we give lectures about it. we discuss it. we intellectually understand the concept..but living it is not always so easy!

the difficulty lies in accepting and truly understanding that nothing ever stays the same. marriage, relationships, kids, friends, work, living situations, emotions, feelings, time, time, places, etc....nothing is permanent.

i am beginning to see that when we think it is we are setting ourselves up for something that can not possibly exist. everything changes...it has too! i never really GOT that before....although i knew it...ya i know, it is my light bulb moment!

i asked my peeps what they have to say about 'temporary', and this is what they tell me:

for our dear children and freinds...can you imagine a world where there was only permanent and no temporary. your world would be stiff, solid, rigid and cold. there would be no fluidity. there would be no growth. there would be no-thing. it simply can not be.

temporary allows for the old to wash away and for the new to come in. temporary allows for change. now some do not like change...just ask lisa! for others they thrive in it. either way, change is the only way to survive. without change there would be no air, there would be no life, there would be no movement, there would be no breath. without change one would have no reason to be.

you see, change and temporary, allow you to become all that you dream of. it allows you the opportunity to change, to move, to sail upon the wind and to grow into the beautiful being's that your heart dreams of. by changing and being temporary you are allowed to go to beautiful places within your heart and with in your mind. temporary allows, the what you call negative or bad, to be "washed" away. it seems so scary but it is really quite calming and beautiful. it is like a birth...exhausting and weary yet rewarding and miraculous beyond your wildest dreams.

nothing is being taken away from you when things change. things are being given to you for you to mold and create into new opportunities and new adventures. when you change the way you look at the world the world changes with you. allow yourself the beautiful gift of change. allow the temporary to embrace your life and take you where you need and ultimately want to go. allow temporary to be your friend and know that temporary has your back.

allow temporary to be what it is....fluid and ever changing to bring you what you want in your life.

if nothing ever changed, can you imagine what the world would look like?? if nothing ever changed there would be no reason for any of you or for anything.

allow your faces and bodies to change, allow them to be temporary homes that house your soul...for now. take care of them and nourish them and allow them to change. there is no growing old. Some of you change your faces and your bodies to look like you did when you were 20. that was temporary, 20 was then...today is now...it has changed...and that is ok. it, your temporary body, is supposed to change or else it would not. allow the change to be beautiful. allow the wrinkles and the curves. allow the youth to live within and allow outer age to show your wisdom, courage and strength.

everything is temporary for a reason...allow children to grow up and out, allow relationships to end, allow new life to begin, allow new work to come to you...do not allow the fear of change to hold you back for your soul is longing to breath. it can only breath when you allow temporary into your space. allow temporary to be your friend and take you where your soul needs to be! we love you and whatever you decide to do is fine with us....we are only here to tell you what we know...the living is up to you!

~loving and affectionately called "the peeps" by Lisa (J.) ;)


WOW! and that is why i love, love, love my peeps so much. they teach me, they help me to remember what is important and they bring such deep love i can feel it in every cell.

i remember why i am blessed. i remember that i am blessed to have had what i once had; a loving family, 2 beautiful kids who are grown up now, i had a husband who loved me as much as he could, a beautiful dog names Brownie, a best friend named Tracey and a house that i owned and raised my family in. i have so much to give thanks for. it has taken me allllll Thanksgiving week to find this in my heart. i felt like the Grinch...with a very little heart and NO love to give at all. that sucks when all you want is to be you! i still have a little ways to go....but isn't that just life?

so for now (as i am learning is so fleeting) i sit and feel lighter. i feel better. i feel like me. i feel like i have given birth yet again...this time to a beautiful little thing called change. i will nurture this moment for change is sure to be temporary.

i needed to understand that in order to move on. i hope that it helps you too!

hey we are all in this together, right? that is one thing that will NEVER change! the unity of peeps...here there and everywhere!!!! xoxox

much love and light for this moment

Lisa J.

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